How to work from home with your lover

Updated: Apr 28


They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, so what does this mean when we're stuck with them in isolation during the coronavirus?



Being surrounded by our home comforts, the fridge and our partner for the whole day can be a wild experience, to say the least. In times like these, we must work with what we have, some may be crammed into a 1 bed flat with no decent fresh air, others have the luxury of a garden, and the rest the luxury of many kids! If you live or currently living with your partner, consider them now part of your team and your coworker, this is a brilliant way to get through these times instead of picking out things that will grind your gears. When we are presented with someone in a confined space for a long time we will become potentially irritable and struggle to stay sane, but there are so many ways we can make this work.



Bum out of bed


Whatever the situation, work separately, even if you work in the office together, work separately. The majority of couples wouldn't work together in their professional environment so why would you now? We all have our ways, our habits and how we are in a different environment, so we need to keep those habits for as long as possible in order to move forward. Put it like this, during business hours keep to your own business, maybe meet in the kitchen for a tea or lunch which is always appreciated, but don't allow yourself to get too close. Remember the feeling of looking forward to seeing someone you love or like after work, it's a powerful feeling, but that can be taken away simply by seeing the same person over and over again.



Keep love at a distance


Whatever the situation, work separately, even if you work in the office together, work separately. The majority of couples wouldn't work together in their professional environment so why would you now? We all have our ways, our habits and how we are in a different environment, so we need to keep those habits for as long as possible in order to move forward. Put it like this, during business hours keep to your own business, maybe meet in the kitchen for a tea or lunch which is always appreciated, but don't allow yourself to get too close. Remember the feeling of looking forward to seeing someone you love or like after work, it's a powerful feeling, but that can be taken away simply by seeing the same person over and over again.



Music



Turn on the happy tunes and see a change in mood. The coronavirus can't take away good music, so turn it up and get comfortable. You and your partner either have similar tastes in music or completely different tastes so it may be time to invest in a pair of decent headphones to block out the bad music vibes.


Here are some good choices from the gentleman's journal.





The tea break




If you're a true brit, tea will be your oxygen and a great excuse to take a break, almost as if we could murder someone and still get away with asking the court for a tea break. Tea breaks mean getting away from what you're currently doing, it breaks up your work segment doesn't it.. this does not mean, it should last 30 minutes. Here comes the best idea to maintain productivity, keep as many tea breaks as you like a day with your partner, but keep them under 4 minutes, what an idea, you could have 10 teas a day and still do some under 40 minutes instead of lingering around drinking a tea that is slowly going cold because you fancy a bit of procrastination.



Identical lunch breaks


Keep the eating together, think about, make a structured lunchtime for 1 couple is more than necessary. The last thing you want to hear when deep into a project is your partner clambering around the kitchen trying to make coq au vin at 12:30, so do so together, it'll be an excuse to get together and a lot more efficient, as many grandparents say, many hands make light work. Preparing a healthy lunch with the person we love is also strong bonding, remember that.



Mid-Afternoon walk



It's easy to say it and think about popping out for a meaningful walk, but most won't get round to it, which is unfortunate because it's a way to boost your brain productivity. A walk does not mean a trek, it means a 10-30 minute walk, to take in the fresh air, relax and move your body to help blood flow.



Understand his/her routine


Everyone has their little habits, some weird some just different, along with rituals and routines, it's a really important fact to respect them, this is how your partner works and manages stress so get used to it and support it if anything. If you come into their room and they are sitting on top of the wardrobe, just act as if it's normal, for their sake.



Have a laugh


Just because you're pretending to "be at work" does not mean we should associate it with not having any fun at all, quite the opposite. You're in your home with your partner, it's time to spice it up, there are a lot of ways to make your house into a fun place, have you ever played [the floor is lava]... Well, do it, even during work time why not, make your place an inside play area but with rooms where only work is permitted, we're all children still deep down, don't be ashamed to show it.

It's easy to say it and think about popping out for a meaningful walk, but most won't get round to it, which is unfortunate because it's a way to boost your brain productivity. A walk does not mean a trek, it means a 10-30 minute walk, to take in the fresh air, relax and move your body to help blood flow.



The naughty cupboard



When at work a naughty snack can seem the go-to when it comes to a long day, so be sure to still have snacks. Find a cupboard and label it the naughty cupboard, there's always a place where we tend to go when in need of sugar. Fill this up and enjoy it every now and then, add some nuts and healthy things too, it's not all about filling up on refined sugars.



The finish line


Agree on a time when you can both comfortably finish work if you have the opportunity to finish early, then do it, why not, after all, there's no real schedule right now so appreciate having the chance to before it's too late. When the end of the day for you both comes, change into something comfy and set the mood, change the music, have a glass of something and dim the lighting, let your body know there is a change happening.




Teamwork works



There will be times you both get on top of each other, but the most important thing to remember is that you love one and another, and that is strong enough in itself. When the pandemic is finally over, you will be able to reminisce about how you coped and the amazing things you learnt about yourself and also about each other.




MY FRENCH COACH | SAM NEAME


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